LIFE CHANGER - TOP 37 THINGS DYING PPL SAY THEY REGRET

Here Are The Top 37 Things Dying People Say They Regret. Learn From It Before It’s Too Late.

Everyone goes through life experiencing enough mistakes and resulting damage that, by the time they are old enough, they have regrets. They say hindsight is 20/20 and when you look back at your life you will know what moments you should have changed. However, we want to help you out. Forget hindsight. We’ve compiled a list of the 37 things you must not do or else you will definitely regret them at the end of your life. Just read through these and trust us. It’ll be worth it.

1.) Not traveling when you had the chance. Traveling gets harder as you get older, as more people depend on your presence, day-to-day and it ends up becoming more expensive to bring more people with you.

2.) Not learning another language. You probably took years of another language in high school. You should put it to good use.

3.) Staying in a bad relationship. It may feel hard to get out of a bad relationship, but it’s not worse than staying in it and wasting everyone’s time.

4.) Forgoing sunscreen. It may not seem like much, but sun damage adds up over the years, causing wrinkles and discoloration.

5.) Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians. You never truly know when your favorite band might break up, so seize the day.

6.) Being afraid to do things. Fear can paralyze us, but we can’t let it.

7.) Failing to make physical fitness a priority. As you get older you’ll realize how important it is to take care of your body.

8.) Letting yourself be defined by gender roles. Define yourself, don’t let society do it.

9.) Not quitting a terrible job. You may need to pay rent or provide for a family, but you can’t force yourself to be miserable every day.

10.) Not trying harder in school. Grades are important, but what’s more important is learning how to apply yourself and be dedicated.

11.) Not realizing how beautiful you are. There are many definitions of beauty and you shouldn’t think you’re unworthy of someone’s attention.

12.) Being afraid to say “I love you.” Loving another person is a precious gift, even if that same love wasn’t returned.

13.) Not listening to your parents’ advice. They have a lot more experience than you’ll want to give them credit for.

14.) Spending your youth being self-absorbed. There is more to the world than just you and eventually you’ll realize that.

15.) Caring too much about what other people think. When you’re older, you’ll realize that the opinions of others don’t factor into your true happiness.

16.) Supporting the dreams of others over your own. Being nice is one thing, but sacrificing your happiness isn’t worth it.

17.) Not moving fast enough. Don’t hesitate to make decisions, you’ll end up regretting wasting time.

18.) Holding grudges, especially against those you love. Choose to let go of your pain, instead of dwelling on it.

19.) Not standing up for yourself. Just because others may disagree with you, it doesn’t mean you have to abandon your principals.

20.) Not volunteering enough. There are countless reasons to help other people, especially when they are needy.

21.) Neglecting your teeth. Flossing and brushing may seem annoying, but it’s much better to take care of your teeth while you’re young instead of losing them later.

22.) Missing the chance to talk to your grandparents before they die. They hold a lot of knowledge and they will only be around for a little while.

23.) Working too much. You’re going to miss the good parts of life, or be too stressed to enjoy them, if you do.

24.) Not learning how to cook one good meal. It’ll add to your family and friend get togethers more than you can ever imagine.

25.) Not stopping to appreciate the moment. Quit texting or taking pictures and realize what you are doing when you are doing it.

26.) Failing to finish what you start. Every day is an opportunity that shouldn’t be squandered.

27.) Never mastering one awesome party trick. This seems silly, but just think of how many amazing memories you can create.

28.) Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations. If your family or country thinks you should do something for a career, you’re not forced to. Never.

29.) Refusing to let friendships run their course. Sometimes people drift apart. Forcing that connection could do more damage than good.

30.) Not playing with your children enough. Kids are joyful and innocent. You should be choosing to fill your life with this joy, not avoiding it.

31.) Never taking a big risk (especially in love). Taking a bigger risk can pay off more than taking a smaller one.

32.) Not taking the time to develop contacts and network. It may seem like schmoozing, but it’ll help your career in the long run.

33.) Worrying too much. Worrying, especially about things that haven’t happened yet, is useless.

34.) Getting caught up in needless drama. Drama can be addictive, but there is no point. Don’t get off on how bad your day is.

35.) Not spending enough time with loved ones. We are all on this earth for a limited amount of time, don’t take that for granted.

36.) Never performing in front of others. This may not be your true calling, but trying it at least once is an important life experience.

37.) Not being grateful sooner. Learn to say thanks and learn to mean it. So many parts of your life will improve if you do.

It’s never too late to change your life, so start by avoiding these things.

You won’t regret it. (See what I did there?) Share this article with your friends so they can have the same advice.

ARTICLE- GIRL REMEMBERED THROUGH LETTERS TO FUTURE SELF

http://www.hlntv.com/article/2014/01/08/girl-dead-letter-self-future?hpt=hln10_3

Girl remembered through letter to future self

 

By AJ Willingham

updated 1:40 PM EST, Thu January 09, 2014

• Taylor Scout Smith, 12, died from complications of pneumonia Sunday
• While going through her things, her parents found a letter to her future self

"Dear Taylor, how's life? Life is pretty simple 10 years in your past, I know I'm late for you, but I'm writing this early, so congratulations on graduating high school, if you didn't, go back and keep trying, get that degree...Do you have your own place yet? If we're in college what are we majoring in? Right now I want to be a lawyer."
Tim and Ellen Smith of Johnson City, Tennessee, were cleaning out their daughter Taylor's things when they found a letter. It was written by Taylor to herself at 22 years old, 10 years into the future.
Tragically, Taylor will never be able to read it. The 12-year-old passed away Sunday from complications arising from pneumonia. In the days that have passed, her grief-stricken family has found comfort in hearing others' stories and memories about their daughter.
"You see all the other things that she's done that you didn't know about, things at youth group, things at school, things where she just touched people's lives in ways that are unbelievable," Taylor's father Tim Smith told affiliate WJHL. "I'm more determined now to find what God's will is, and right now you're even seeing a glimpse of what God's will is, all the people that are being touched by what's going on."
The family has also begun going through Taylor's room. They've found boxes full of poems, journals and other musings, to-do lists left undone, letters left unsent.
One letter was addressed to herself.
"To be opened by Taylor Smith on April 13, 2023, only unless said otherwise," read the envelope.
Taylor's letter to herself was filled with encouragement and questions any 12-year-old would ask. She wanted to know what she was studying. If she wasn't studying anything, that seemed to be OK, too. She wanted to know if Dr. Who was still on the air.
Her parents say Taylor was a deeply spiritual girl, and the letter reinforces what a special young life she led.
"She's just a perfect example of what it is to love God and to love people," her father said."She showed me how God loves, she didn't see anything on the exterior, she only saw the inside and what was best about you."
Smith says his daughter's words give the family peace.
"Well, I think that's about all. But remember it's been 10 years since I wrote this. Stuff has happened good and bad, that's just how life works and you have to go with it."

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i blog for allot of the same reason, mostly to have something for my son when i am gone, thoughts, insights dreams, ideas, thoughts, emotions id work through, basicaly a deeper sense of who i am in discovering what i liked and what touched me, motivated me got fire set under me.
my mom left this life without anything for me to really KNOW her inner self.

 in my real life, i try to drop gems of wisdom as i find ppl.
i try to tell them to be positive, to never stress, to enjoy the moments they have right here and right now, because tomorrow, isnt promised us, all we have is right here and right now.

id hope in my sharing those idea nd ways to make life better, when im gone ppl will miss that part of me.
and want to keep soemthing of that fire i have inside lit and going.
but that rwquires a desire to be  inspired and forge forward, and not afraid to speak the words your told to say, because thy may just help and effect change in someone.

change is good. as long as it makes you better.
i want to effect good changes in ppl.
and then they effect good changes in others.

and through them, ill live on.

Michelle

ARTICLE- SELF HELP - 8 SURPRISING TOXIC FREINDSHIPS TO AVOID

http://http://positivemed.com/2013/12/24/8-toxic-friend-types-to-avoid/
8 Surprising Toxic Friendships To Avoid
Edited By Stephanie Dawson

Friends are usually for life and help make your life complete. We can have many friends in life but some turn out to be toxic. When people say "toxic friend," they actually mean the type of friend who is good at embarrassing you in front of others to gain attention or who is a betrayer. Here are some toxic friends you may want to eliminate from your life:

1. The Hater
A friend who is a hater can never be satisfied. They tend to have negative opinions about almost everything, like the clothes you wear or the people you talk to. They are good at making things seem bad and blocking your positive vibes. They are never happy with your choices. They feel jealous at times and will never compliment you for your good choice even if they love it.
2. The Leech
We usually have that one friend who is constantly borrowing money or your stuff and depends on you. This kind of friend should definitely be avoided. If a friend takes things from you and never returns favors the friendship becomes one-sided. 
3. The Fault-finder
This type of friend does nothing but find fault in you and others. They are always keen of everything that you do or say. If you want to keep such friends you can say something in a joking manner like “Let’s see if you can last an hour without saying anything negative,” however if you are not comfortable with these friends and are continuously subduing your self-respect then its better to keep away from them or eliminate them.
4. The Manipulator
The manipulative one is often the stealthy one. Such friends are good at manipulating situations and have usually got too many problems to mention. It's better to keep away from these friends as they manipulate things to their convenience.
5. The backstabber
Backstabbers are nice to your face. They can make you enjoy their company and have fun with them. You like spending time with them and it becomes confusing to recognize the backstabbing, but hearing negative things from others it gets depressing. Give these friends a chance to explain themselves but stay bold enough to distance yourself from such friends.
6. The one who finishes your sentences
This is a friend who knows you well and can read your mind. They are so interested in your conversations that before you tell your story they intrude and finish for you even if they have never heard it. They are good at hijacking conversations. They love to talk and won't let you talk. More than a friend they need an audience who can just listen to them.
7. The comparison maker
These friends always compare their lives to yours. These "frenemies" are jealous of what you have and possess. They are not happy with your success and tend to create hurdles in your path to success. Your accomplishments are shot down with their "no big deal" attitude. Such friends try to keep you down in every aspect of life whether it is about friendship or career.
8. The Gossip
Some people enjoy gossip. Every time you meet them they have news about other people. You can never share your personal information with these friends as they are good at disclosing stuff to others. The things they talk about are usually complaining or disrespectful to others. They can even blackmail you for stories you have shared.